Skeptics of aloof dating game should eavesdrop on groups of girls discussing guys they like who aren't contacting them. You'll hear: "We've been texting and then it just stopped." "Should I text him again?" "We had such a good conversation." "I'm not sure what else I could have done." "I really like him." It's fascinating how pathetic girls become when they like a guy, but you'll never hear: "I like him because he texts me every ten minutes." That tells you everything about what works.

You won't hurt your chances by leaning aloof and contacting her at a tortoise's pace, especially after the first date. Assuming she's remotely interested, there's little reason to worry about waiting too long or moving too slow. While going fast won't automatically punish you, scarcity equals value for typical girls you're trying to get into bed. Her interest grows when she's uncertain of yours, not when you're constantly available and eager.

When you pull back after good chemistry, she fills the silence with questions about your interest. She wonders if she said something wrong. She replays the conversation. She considers reaching out but hesitates. That internal dialogue—that uncertainty—is where attraction compounds. Meanwhile, constant contact kills mystery and signals you have no other options. Girls want men they have to work to keep, not men who are desperately grateful for their attention.

Most guys believe more contact equals more connection. They text frequently, call often, and make themselves available. These are the guys who wonder why interest fades. The irony is that pulling back—becoming slightly harder to reach—actually increases her investment in the connection. She starts chasing to regain your attention. That role reversal is where real attraction lives, and it only happens when you have the discipline to stay aloof.